Lately (and by lately I mean since 2348 BC) there has been a lot of negative criticism directed towards different religions and churches, including my own faith, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (Mormon). This is nothing of the sort. The Family Fund is just my simple “in the shower” optimistic idea to solve a problem I’ve been worrying about lately..
It was almost 2 years ago when my wife Jessica and I had our first child, Dorothy Seven. Little miss “Dorsey” is healthy, crazy active, oddly terrified of rubber balloons, obsessed with mommy, has a crush on daddy, knows like 1,000 words, and is naturally just the right amount of rebellious (says me ; ). She is also the best thing that has ever happened to us. Like most parents, as our first child she opened our eyes into a whole new world of happiness. The type of happiness you’d hope for the whole world to enjoy..
But, it doesn’t happen this way for everyone. Unfortunately, there is the common problem of infertility. Sometimes it’s a problem that can be overcome. ..Sometimes..
So far, my only exposure to infertility has been indirectly through family members and close friends. At first I didn’t really understand the struggle. My family and friends dealing with it seemed happy regardless. But, since being blessed with the opportunity to be a parent, my perspective has quickly changed. I see my family and friends and the INCREDIBLE parents they would be to their children. Seriously, the best parents ever. So fun. So loving. The type of parents that this world is in dire need of.
As far as I know, there are quite a few options for couples struggling with infertility. Everything from adoption to a variety of artificial insemination like in vitro. All of which, to my understanding, are incredibly expensive. In a perfect world, a sincere couple desiring to be parents would never be ultimately blocked by the expenses. But, I also haven’t seen a great solution for this financial problem. It is both inspiring and heart breaking every time I see a couple putting together whatever creative efforts they can to raise funds for adoption or a treatment. I believe those efforts are never in vain, but, I wonder if there’s another solution..
I wouldn’t necessarily consider myself a very giving person. Definitely not compared to some of the amazing examples in my life. But there are 3 things that never fail to open my wallet for some of my support:
– When someone I know is trying to create a product, business, or some sort of entrepreneurial venture. I know that struggle. I support that struggle.
– If my niece, Leah, is wanting to dye her hair blue. I know that struggle. I support that struggle.
As a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I feel it a blessing that I have the ability to give from what I have, and see it effectively do so much good. During the donation process, I have the option to choose specifically which efforts I’d like to see my funds support (humanitarian aid, missionary work, other). Thus comes my simple idea :
If I could choose for some of my tithes and other donations to be directed towards couples struggling with infertility, that is something I would fully endorse and eagerly support.
Eternal families are a central focus to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and I feel something like this would be perfectly in line with our efforts as followers of Christ. Again, my experience with infertility is only indirect so there may be better solutions that I’m not aware of. But from what I’ve seen with my family and close friends and also from others online, the struggle is real, the desire is sincere, and it seems there must be a better solution out there..